Last week D’angelo was all over the blogs due to a new article and photo shoot in GQ. I came across in on Concrete Loop.
He looks pretty darn good, to put it extremely mildly. And his head seems like its back in the right place. I’m glad.
I’m a bit too young to have been swept away when D’Angelo initially hit the scene.
I’m not going to lie and say that his video for “Untitled” didn’t teach me splendid things about the male form. But, I only hold an introductory knowledge of his music. I’m ducking while you throw stones.
However, I did follow his epic fall from grace in recent years.
He spoke in depth about this in the interview:
“I went in under a fake name so people wouldn’t know who I was, right? So, you know, Michael never got treatment. It was this other character that was in there. And the moment I left, I went straight to the fucking liquor store. […] I didn’t really think I had a problem like that. I felt like, you know, all I got to do is clean up and I’ll be fine. Just get in the studio and I’ll be fucking fine.”
D’Angelo, along with Questlove of The Roots, also hit on an oft-ignored topic: the manner if which we sabotage our careers and dreams.
Questlove: “On the last day of the eight-month [Voodoo] tour, Questlove says D’Angelo told him, ‘Yo man, I cannot wait until this fucking tour is over. I’m going to go in the woods, drink some hooch, grow a beard, and get fat.’ Questlove thought he was joking. ‘I was like, ‘You’re a funny guy.’ And then it started to happen. That’s how much he wanted to distance himself.”
D’Angelo adds: “Questlove has a theory about what happens to black genius—what he calls a ‘crazy psychological kind of stoppage that prevents them from following through. A sort of self-saboteur disorder.’”
When I read that, my friends, I had a bit of an outer body experience.
This is exactly what I’ve been dealing with as of late.
Mind you, I haven’t taken off to the woods with a barrel of moonshine. But I have been dealing with issues of self-sabotage.
Following the dream is hard. You get doors shut in your face, constant criticism and let-downs. We all know that.
But here’s something that most are afraid to share: Keeping the dream after you’ve earned it… Is exponentially harder for a multitude of reasons.
Hard enough to make you quit, move to the Appalachians, get fat and gain some addictions.
Self-sabotage is tricky to deal with because it’s so stealth in nature. I’ve been brainstorming some ways to keep it at bay. I’ll share:
- Have a clear picture of your ideal. It will keep you from getting lost in the everyday failures we all experience.
- Make a commitment to be better than you were yesterday. LAWD, it is so much easier said than done. But stagnation is a gateway to decline.
- So, you’ve reached a goal. Make a new one. Once we’ve reached a goal, it’s easy to become self-congratulatory and self-satisfied. Again, stagnation is the gateway to decline.
- RELAX. Burn-out makes the thoughts of giving up the dream so much more appealing.
Credits: NecoleBitchie.com, ConcreteLoop.com and TheYBF.com